I Feel Bad Eating Healthy And Dieting Infront Of My Pregnant Friend?
My friend is 8 months pregnant and believes she is no longer attractive (though she’s totally precious.) I’m trying to start a new diet and healthy eating plan with a new workout regime. Everytime she sees me she gets a little jealous that I’m small and she’s not. I feel like she thinks because I want to lose weight and I weigh less than her that I think she’s fat. She is totally gorgeous and I tell her all the time but I still feel like she looks at me with disdain. How can I stick to my new plans without making her feel like she’s fat?
Well the best thing to do is keep assuring her of her beauty. Second, explain to her that she should be eating the same things. A healthy diet is even more important while pregnant. Healthy diet = healthy baby. If the food you eat together isn’t different, it might seem less noticeable that you are dieting and she is pregnant. Instead it is just the two of you enjoying a meal/snack together. Good luck with your new diet!
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BTW, my husband thinks my pregnant body is hott… I’m not sure if that helps at all, but I’m sure it can’t hurt.
You can’t “fix” whatever it is that’s making her feel bad about herself. (Whether its only because of the pregnancy, or if she had insecurity issues before.)
There’s no rational reason why an 8 month old pregnant woman should be upset with a non-pregnant friend who is trying to make a healthy lifestyle change. Of course, no one ever said that all pregnant women think rationally all the time.
Just be lighthearted about it – even tell her that she’s welcome to join you once she recovers from childbirth, that you could use a diet/exercise partner. Perhaps that could be a way for you guys to continue to spend time together after her baby’s born – new moms often don’t have time to socialize with their friends for at least a while during that “adjusting to motherhood” phase…at least if she can kill 2 birds w/one stone (working out + spending time w/you), then she might be more likely to keep that commitment. lol
she should be eating healthy too also you have to remind her that she is not fat she is pregnant and should feel blessed as alot of people would love to be in her situation.
You should not feel bad at all.
try not to show your diet infront of her so much
Tell her, “Youre body maybe out of shape temporarily but behind those popping belly button is the most majestic creation anyone can think of- a life and soul soon coming in this world. After birth, you will get back in shape plus fullest fullfillment of being a mother.”
You two are in totally different stages in life and requesting different things of your bodies at this time; ask her to participate in your lifestyle once she has the baby if it’s an appropriate diet and exercise plan.
Try to encourage her to eat. sha can eat healthy just like you. Keep telling her that she is fine or precious as you put it. Sometimes pregnant women need reassurance of their looks. Also let her know that once she has the baby that you and her can start working out so the two of you can look fine together. Let her know that she will lose the baby weight and that you are will to help her.
Your friend should be eating healthy with you and she is pregnant not fat. She can join you in your diet when she has the baby…. but don’t keep saying that you r fat around her, because if you are skinnier than her she doesn’t need to hear it all the time…
I guess just don’t discuss your diet in front of her. But there is really nothing you can do about how she feels about herself. Most all pregnant women feel fat at some point in their pregnancy. And most people who aren’t pregnant view us as beautiful, glowing women.
shes pregnant she’ll get over it after she has her baby
Just encourage her to do the same as you after she has the baby.She’ll be fine!
just be the friend you always have
she want take it to heart if your friendship is worth alot.
Pregnant women get like this
You just do. She’s going to have to get over it. You shouldn’t compromise your health to help her feelings.
She should be following a healthy eating plan as well. And if she is, then that weight will come right off after delivery.
Hey just do it!!! At 8 mo. the mood swings, the feeling ugly and big are just beginning!!! just be supportive!!! she’s not fat she’s havin’ a baby!!!! /She willl get with the program after the baby!!!
i’m not being mean, as a matter of a fact i’m fat and 7 months pregnant, lol…but it’s not ur job to curb ur healthy plans just to be sure she doesn’t feel fat. she’s pregnant, she’s moody, she’s big and miserable. this is normal….she will have her baby and have just as much option to start eating healthy and start some sort of exersize routine…maybe even partenering up w/ you!! she’s wanted to be prego, she can’t be tiny right now….life goes on…she’s getting a baby and ur not, how is she gonna make you feel better???can she get your pregnant while you get her skinny??? lol i get jelous when i see i skinny woman, but i know it’s totally up to me to do it, no one else can do taht for me….same goes for her…nice of you to be so considerate, but just chill, everything will be fine. just stick to your plans and maybe give her hope after the baby is born…say you know your more than welcome to buddy up when you begin to feel better and we will do a a trip to the gym or go the the store to pick up some healthy eats sometime!
It isn’t your fault, it is just part of pregnancy. Stick to your diet, maybe she will join you in your new diet/exercise routine once she is ready after baby.
You tell her that even though she doesn’t feel that she is special pregnant women have this glow about them and you can get away with about anything as far as eating goes. This feeling of hers will pass just keep up the compliments and healthy is good for her as well as the baby. And tell her when she has the baby her weight will come off.
I think some of the advice people are giving you is great. I just wanted to add one thing. Pregnant women need to have healthy diets too, so maybe one day you can bring a special lunch for the both of you that is healthy. You can explain to her that if she eats healthy, the baby weight will fall off faster. Just be supportive, as you are, but try to include her. I am not sayin you have to, but it sounds like you are a good friend to care about her feelings. She can eat healthy too and maybe you guys can take a walk together or something..Eating healthy and excercise are very important for pregnant women. Good luck!
lmfao
thats halerious
atleast be fat with her
take a risk ;]
then once shes done with the baby
both of u chill at the gym and get bak in shape